My Therapy

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Sometimes in our life, we experience difficulties and overwhelming whether from life in general or work stress, and this could reflect on our relationships. It is common for people to face difficulties in their relationships. Sometimes couples find it difficult to communicate with each other and this result in them being distant, unhappy, resentful of each other and consequently drift away from each other. 

Another reason for conflict in relationships is the growth of the individual within the relationship and this could affect the dynamic of their relationship, however, this does not mean the end of their relationship, people keep growing and learning new ways of thinking and communicating with each other in a healthy way that will satisfy them. We need to remind ourselves that it is us vs. them problem not me vs. you.

Relationship issues could include but not limited to:

· Communication issues.

· Differences in Cultural and Religious backgrounds.

· Co-Dependency Issues.

· Infidelity and Affairs.

· Trust Issues.

· Drifting Apart. 

· Children, Infertility Issues.

· Extended Family Issues.

· Different Needs.

· Financial Issues.

· Work and Career Differences. 

· Growing Apart.

Also known as sexology or sex therapy, when we face life's difficulties this will not affect only our communication, but it can affect our sexual life as well. Individuals or Couples could face some concerns or issues regarding their sexuality or sexual life, here we will concentrate on the psychological causes of these concerns or issues (after ruling out any medical/biological cause and this could happen after consulting your GP). We together will explore and understand the possible roots of these issues. Then we can discuss ways to deal with these issues and improve your sexual life by using some tools and strategies to support you gain the most of the therapy, these tools could be a combination between some Psychotherapeutic methods and exercises as well as Psycho-education and sex-education, also adopting some psychosexual tools and techniques to help with any sexual dysfunction or difficulties.

Sexual difficulties could be include but not limited to:

· Erectile Dysfunction (unable to have or maintain an Erection).

· Ejaculatory Dysfunctions. 

· Vaginismus.

· Dyspareunia/ Vaginal Pain.

· Anorgasmia.

· Low or Lack of Desire. 

· Arousal Difficulties

· Fear of Intimacy.

· Sex and porn addiction. 

· Love addiction. 

· Survivor of sexual abuse.

· Difficulty building intimacy after trauma.

· Age related issues. 

· Hormonal and pregnancy and their impact on sex. 

In Couples Therapy, we see a lot of couples coming from different cultural Backgrounds and this could cause some issues in their communications and understanding of each other. It is important to look at cultural factors and their influence on  relationships, and the way the client seeks help or presents a problem, these cultural factors should not be seen as an obstacle in the way of therapy for a client from different culture, we need to always remind ourselves that We have our differences but we arguably share more commonalities. We, HUMAN, share the same losses and we have the same goals, which will allow us to support and understand each other.

Talking about these cultural differences in Couples Therapy will help to look at the issue from each other point of view and to have an empathetic view as well towards one another. 

Cultural differences not necessarily have to be between couples from different countries, but they could happen as well between people from the same country but have been raised differently.  

Typical cultural issues could include:

· Ways of communications and arguments.

· The way of reaction to a conversation.

· Tone of voice. 

· Way of raising children/stepchildren.

· Different needs.

· Different relig

Infidelity has a great negative impact on relationships, marriage and sexual lives. Infidelity can cause pain, heartbreak, and emotional distress. It is very challenging for couples to heal from it individually and as a couple. The healing process and the re-building of trust, intimacy and compassion can be long and challenging, but it is possible. By looking at the root of the problem that caused the infidelity and try to understand it couples can benefit and start the healing process. There are many reasons for infidelity these include but not limited to:

· People sometimes have an affair or cheat out of anger or a desire to get revenge because either partner is not around too much, or not satisfying or understanding their needs.

· Falling out of love: sometimes people might realize that the love just isn’t there. Or maybe you realize you’re in love with someone else.

· Commitment issues one partner might end up cheating as a way of avoiding commitment, even if they actually would prefer to stay in the relationship.

· Unmet needs or different sexual desire: which could mean that partners have different sexual drives, or one partner can't have sex or no interest in sex, or one or both partners often spend time away from home or have a long-distance relationship. 

· Low self-esteem leads partner to have an affair to boost their low level of self-esteem. 

· Self-destruction, it's a trait people have and feel scared when a relationship seems perfect and they want to destruct it. 

Individual therapy, couples therapy, and better communication can all help improve a relationship.

If you are seeking answers and do not know where to start, book a free call with me and see if we could work together towards the change you need.

Q. How many sessions will I need?

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It is difficult to say how many sessions are required because every person has different reasons for seeking therapy. Some people might want to make their relationship work better. Some want help to separate and some are on different pages or aren’t quite sure what they want. Others are need therapy just to maintain their relationships or their well-being. However, we will work hard to get you to where you want to be as quickly as possible; even if you are not quite sure where that is at the moment. 

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What happens during the first session?

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The first session usually is an assessment session, where I gather information and history about you (individual or couples) this will help me to get to know you better and to understand your issues and your needs better. However, I will ask you if there is something important that you would like to discuss, also I will ask you what is the outcome of therapy that you are seeking. 

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What if I want to cancel my booking?

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As long as you give me more than 24 hours notice before your scheduled appointment time you will be given a full refund through your method of payment. Appointments cancelled with less than 24 hours notice will be fully chargeable. 

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What if I want to change my booking time?

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Please e-mail me at nariman@unityfortherapy.com and I will endeavour to change the time for you. 

Q. 

What if my partner won't agree to having relationship therapy?

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This is a common problem and it can be tricky because both parties must be willing participants for the therapy to be successful.

The only advice I give is, that even though relationship counselling can be difficult at first, it does get easier. Avoiding and not talking about the problems in your relationship doesn't make them go away. All that tends to happen is that they get worse - potentially leading to the relationship ultimately breaking down.

It is extremely rare for people to regret deciding to have relationship therapy because it always gets you talking. More often than not couples wish they had done it months, if not years earlier.